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Do you have any advice for new writers?

a quote that has helped me is this: “To live a creative life, we must lose our fear of being wrong" - Joseph Chilton Pearce. I say show people. invite critiques. read and write as often as you can. journaling or writing a sentence a day sharpens your skills. a couple of exercises I love: poetically describe the scene around you in your mind. it helps keep you in the moment, notice all of your senses. listen to classical music and narrate it - this one is tough. turn on Beethoven and write a story with the music. whatever you do, never stop writing & don’t be afraid. don’t doubt the power of your words to change people’s lives.

What are some of your favorite books?
Survivor by Chuck Palahniuk, Extremely Loud & Incredibly Close by Johnathan Safran Foer, The Unbearable Lightness of Being by Milan Kundera, Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland, and The Paris Wife...to name a few! Oh and all poetry by Charles Bukowsi.

What made you go vegan? Is it hard to maintain? Any tips on becoming vegan?  
i was vegetarian for ten years, and most of those years i felt guilty about eating dairy, as my main purpose is in protest of factory farming and my love for animals. there are so many health and environmental benefits, i finally decided to make the change. as i’ve become more educated and feel much healthier, it’s been very easy to maintain. it’s just a matter of being more creative in the kitchen - there are so many resources out there! give up either meat or dairy first. whichever is easiest to you. don’t put too much pressure on yourself. research, watch documentaries, and i’m sure the motivation will come. 

Does it bother you that a lot of Twenty One Pilots fans follow you?

honestly, not at all! I am so proud of my brother and constantly inspired by him to work hard & pursue my dreams. it warms my heart so much that so many people are a part of the amazing thing they’re doing.

A few questions people have asked me about dealing with pain:

"How do you beat that late night sadness? The one that lives in the back of your head all day long and only creeps out in the late hours of the night. When you realize how lonely you are. When you feel most vulnerable."
here’s the thing. there are these lies that float around in your head like smoke. they fill you up until you can’t breathe and there’s only one way to beat it. you have to exhale. breathe out those dark vapors by turning them into something tangible. words, songs, art. then you can be free from the lies and see that lightness is all around you. your life is beautiful and the world needs you. peace to you, friend.

"Does life get better as you grow up?"

can I be completely honest? no. life doesn’t get better. BUT. you get stronger and life gets more beautiful. pain has a way of sharpening your focus so that colors eventually seem brighter and the lines aren’t so blurred. there will always be hurt but your strength will carry you and the sun will continue to rise for you. always look for the colors around you and the depth of your being will take in even more joy than you can imagine. take heart, dear one.

I'm not suicidal but I'm struggling finding my purpose. Any advice?
you know, some people have a very distinct passion that drives them. sometimes it’s obvious at a young age for people what they want to be when they grow up, and they work hard to become that.
for other people (such as myself), we don’t have a highly specific dream or a strong reason to wake up every single morning. and that’s okay.
here is my advice as someone in the same boat as you:
be kind to everyone. especially people that you don’t like.
spend time with people that challenge you to be a better person
spend time with people that inspire you and get you
chase after what makes you feel alive & always work hard
dance a lot and play loud music and stay up late, don’t take life too seriously
these things can help you to be the best version of yourself, and that’s the best purpose anyone can have

xo,

Ashley

17 comments:

Arinn Styczynski said...

this is bueatiful this page helps people know you better then just josh duns sister and makes you Ashley dun the bueatiful girl that runs this blog. It also helps people take a diffrent perspective of life. you give them what life is like for you and it is just gorgeous thank you very much <3

Madi Kat said...

Thank you for your advise Ashley. Lately I have been feeling very alone and have had a hard time finding a purpose to get up in the morning. Your words have helped me to realize that I can only become stronger and that I can take the pain that I am feeling and turn it into something beautiful. You have given me hope in some of my darkest days. Thank you for that you wonderful human person! I love your blog. Keep creating amazing things!

Madeline McGinty said...

Thank you so much. I really needed to hear this tonight.

elly said...

i really needed to read this, thank you x

BooksBeforeBlood said...

I read your poetry and it's so beautiful.Saddly i had to translate itnto spanish because i don't undestand to much.You are amazing,your blog is excellent.Love from Argentina <3

Natalie Haley said...

i just found your blog and i already love it so much! it's so inspiring please keep writing x

Anonymous said...

This blog is honestly so amazing. You really have a way with words, and your posts are so inspiring and nice and comforting. I love you and your writing and really hope you keep doing this <3

Rasheda Wallace said...

i always tried to deny the label of 'depression' (no not because i'm a rebellious teenager who likes to be different and edgy, lol) because i would hear other people's stories and compare my situation to theirs. i'm not suicidal, i have a roof over my head, i live in a country of great opportunities. now that i look at that i realize it's not fair to myself because I'M A WHOLE OTHER FREAKIN PERSON! it's okay not to be okay. and tho i don't have a lot of people around me who support that idea, i'll fight for it and vent through really cool vlogs online. lol. and maybe one day find someone to share that with. SO WE CAN CONQUER OUR DEMONS TOGETHER! WOOHOO!!

Gabbitrabbit said...

I love this. I write to get out the negative views I've managed accumulate about myself. Though, I write fiction, it's been immensely helpful for me.

Additionally, I went vegan nine months ago and I am so glad that I did. It's so much easier than I was lead to believe.

Lovely blog and I will certainly be checking in. No idea how to subscribe, haha

Anonymous said...

Your blog inspires me more than I can say. Thank you so very much!!!

Unknown said...

i honestly really love this, will totally be following your blog

Anonymous said...

I'm a fan of your brothers music and I heard about your page by a friend. It's weird for me to read those things because depression is such a big thing in my life. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us. It really helps me:)

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grace said...

your blog and the ways you share your thoughts are amazing, so thank you for that :) you and your brother are both helping a lot of people and I'm very grateful for it because your words help me explain emotions that I don't even understand myself (the same goes for twenty one pilots' music:)

Beth said...

I find it strange that most people seem to talk about the night being their worst times. I am the opposite. I so look forward to the night and going to sleep. Seems that is almost the only time of peace. Yes, I do have to take something help me sleep but sleep is my favorite thing. A time of no worry, no anxiety, no depression, no crying, just peace. I wonder why I seem so different in that....

Unknown said...

Thank you for making this. I've found this today and it has already helped. You have such a creative mind, as do I and it feels great to have someone who thinks -mostly- like me to go this far in life. keep going!!! <3 - soph

Anonymous said...

Salutations earthling just here to tell you it does get better
I was a middle child like your brother Jordun. I was 20,23,27,
28 29 30 31 yes nov 8th Gordan f*(*(U(*( ramsey bday
I shall be 32 dork me feels 23 though trapped in a real world of babysitting my parents. I am just hear to say No one is perfect everyone has something different. I have older siblings that been through some real stuff. But me I avoided
the things they did. But I always learned and respected the older ones. But Life does get better! It is just the waiting that ruins some. When I was your age we were moving to where I am now and that was so hard. I cried I had a love hate relationship with Missery Missouri. But I left knowing the things ahead do get better. Then they did at the slowest dang pace. Everything about you will change and grow finding your own way to get through it is the better way always challenge yourself. For me it hurts to do that but if I did my best I can push through. So just keep your cats and husband happy
I know my family did that had a farm kitty for 18 yrs became a garden cat. Was mine became my moms and at the end of his life he would challenge my mom to back door races. So yeah I had a dog to. But life changes and everybody carry's on.
Never stop planting things that really brings life. Even in the dead cold winter things can be planted and they survive it we all survived the Plague. Always try to make your own bed each morning do it for yourself:)

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